Well…..today I got asked a question…and I felt I needed to share it here…not sure why – but here it goes…being super vulnerable here…
Here’s the question: What belief about the world (or your vision for it) would you take a bullet for?
Basically, what do you stand FOR, what do you stand AGAINST?
Here is my answer…
Well, I have avoided answering this question all day…because well, I realized I was never “too” anything – too loud, too social, etc – I am actually “too good” and I always have been– I also just realized another – “too passive”. By being the “perfect” child/teen/adult – I never really got deep into anything – especially myself.
I lived and operated in my perfect little bubble…never upsetting anyone, never disagreeing with anyone…and you know what – that is a f*cking hard cycle to break! I’m so uncomfortable with confrontation and standing up for what I believe…I’m having a hard time with this question.
I believe whatever answer I come up with is probably just a scratch on the surface – but I know it will take more time to fully uncover the whole truth.
Let me start with what I stand AGAINST. I stand against acting how I act(ed) – being so passive, not speaking up, not allowing yourself to KNOW yourself, to FEEL, and to EXPERIENCE life. Life is a beautiful mess – what good is it if you glide by like me – never getting deeper? BORING – that’s what that is!
I believe in loving yourself, finding yourself, and standing up for what you believe. We have so much bullshit that we tell ourselves every single day and we have been for as long as we can remember. I stand for THROWING it out – we aren’t benefiting from it, we are suffering from it.
Why do we let ourselves treat ourselves like this?? I stand for finding our truth, our worthiness, our value, and letting the whole world know! And you know why I stand for this – because I haven’t and I want to. And I need to.
It’s been a while since I have updated my blog posts! But I am back now and ready to take this to another level! I’ve been making some changes and working on some AMAZING projects. They are rolling out SOON.
Health, fitness and wellness have always been a huge part of my life. I will say I have had some lulls in my fitness journey – usually around my pregnancies and births – which I graciously excuse myself to tend to my babies at that time. But for the most part – I work out regularly, take supplements that support my body and goals, and eat healthy with a treat here and there!
BUT – now that I am getting back in the swing of things (after baby #3), I know how important it is for us moms to take care of our family. They are of the upmost importance! BUT (you knew it was coming – didn’t you) have you ever heard the saying – you can’t pour from an empty cup? That’s right, if we give give give and never replenish our cup, how can we fill others up?
I know you know this, but we need to take care of ourselves too. For me, that is being healthy. Working out, shopping at the farmer’s market, cooking at home, taking my supplements to support my body, and something that might shock you – mindset. Yup, mindset and self-growth.
If you’re like me – you once never knew about mindset. You may have heard it tossed around once or twice, but what is it really and why does it matter? In the most basic sense it’s about our frame of mind. Simply put positivity versus negativity. AND it will blow your mind (no pun intended – or was it?) how much this can affect your life.
Since I’ve started focusing on all these areas, they are what make me light up, I have had the most amazing energy – both spiritually and physically – and I have really renewed myself and my purpose in life.
Sometimes you do something for yourself and you realize how many other people are looking to feel this way too…so that’s why I am here – I am offering you a chance to come join my Facebook group where we address all these areas! Body & Mind Coaching – we need both to be working harmoniously together to be the best versions of ourselves – and everyone benefits – family included. My friend Lauren and I have come together to offer the most comprehensive group I have ever seen – and I want you to be a part of it. We focus on all areas of health – fitness, meals, supplements, and mindset – and we do all of it…With Love. With Love FB Group
Right now, everyone is into health and wellness, you hear it everywhere. What exactly does that mean? Does it mean you only eat organic? You work out 5 days a week? You don’t use chemicals? You use essential oils and herbs? Do some of these things scare you? LOL!
I sometimes feel we have this crazy idea about what “health and wellness” is and I also feel it is super broad. What does it cover? Or better yet, what DOESN’T it cover? AmIRIGHT??
How about instead of focusing on what you should be doing or having this far-fetched idea of what you strive to be in regards to being healthy…why don’t we just do the best we can?
I believe there are 3 main pillars to health and wellness – Exercise, Eating, and Supplements. Now, we can go into details on all of these on a deeper level, but at the core, if you are attempting to do some sort of physical activity, eating relatively well, and using supplements based on your health goals and needs, then you should feel great. NOW, if you’re not – don’t feel bad! Just know you have an opportunity to work on one of the pillars. Of course there are many other items we can add into health and wellness, but for now I am going to focus on these 3.
For me, I know my eating can definitely be improved upon. And – I am NOT going to start eating crazy clean tomorrow because that isn’t realistic. What I am going to do is try to eat more greens, vegetables, and cut out sugar. Once I feel good with that – I am going to kick it up a notch, slowly. If you have ever been on a diet before you KNOW how easy it is to lapse and go back to your old ways.
WHY? That’s because you tried to change your whole lifestyle overnight which is not easy. IF you do little changes here and there they become a habit and it’s so easy to continue.
It’s important to be consistent and to slowly work on each pillar. Maybe just start with 1 action item in each pillar. Be sure to balance them all out, you don’t want to overdo one and slack on the others.
Maybe yours is giving up soda, or drinking more water. Maybe it’s cutting down your fast food meals or going to the farmer’s market weekly. Maybe you want to walk after dinner. What are you going to change to start your journey to a healthier you?! Grab an accountability partner and get going!!
Well, here I am back at work after 8 wonderful weeks with my baby boy. Yes, I was sad to come back, and I do miss him (it’s only day 2…). But I am back into the swing of things, and here I am contemplating the best way to get back into shape. I have my AWESOME Plexus line which I have been using religiously – and now I need to tone up. Plexus helped me get back to feeling like me after baby (regulated hormones – can I get an Amen!), lose most of the baby weight, made my milk supply go WAY up, and it gives me energy! I am so thankful to have such a great NATURAL (which is key!) product that does all these things!
Now I am thinking – is it time to go back to the gym?! I had a C-section – so I know I have to take it easy but I think I am ready to get back in it. While I was on leave I had such an amazing time walking with my girlfriends on some back roads with our babies! Unfortunately I can’t do that right now, since I am working again. So the next best thing is the gym – or maybe walks outside around my office?
I’m also sitting here wondering how on earth I can work out with 3 kids around HAH! I used to go during my lunch break – and it looks like that is what is going to continue to work for me!! So I am going to give myself until the end of the month to get situated – and then – it’s on!!!
Share your fav after baby work outs!!
Well I did what I needed to do (see previous blog). And, as always I worried more and in the end it wasn’t as bad as I had imagined it to be (isn’t that always the case?). But something really awesome happened, and it gave me an aha moment which I am SUPER excited about!!!
You may be like me, in a MLM or Network Marketing company (or really anything to be honest) and you may have gotten stuck or maybe your momentum has slowed down. This happened to me. Recently. Yes, I did just have a baby, yes he is colicky, yes I have 2 other children (all under 3 for a couple more days!) and blah blah blah… EXCUSES!
Now, I know I am not the only one that makes up these excuses – and to be fair – they are VALID arguments! Yes I am super crazy and busy, but so is 99% of other people. So my aha moment came when I realized a couple of things:
- My excuses are actually my REASON and my WHY for doing what I do
- They should be the REASON I make it happen – no matter what
- This is ALL IN MY HEAD
So now that I have MADE A DECISION to not make excuses and make things happen and TOOK ACTION toward what I needed to get done – guess what… I am sure you can guess what happened…IT ACTUALLY HAPPENED!! WHAT??? Who knew!??
Well that’s when the light went off…THIS is my new training I am going to be rolling out soon…stay tuned – I hope to have it up by next week! I can’t wait!
It’s so awesome and encouraging when things just work out – AM I right!!!! So, once again, lesson learned, things always work out and I am so glad things worked out this way because I am in LOVE with this new training I am putting together. It all is flowing so easily, and that’s when you know it’s meant to be! When it comes from your heart. XOXO
PS – This is the AD for my new training – thoughts?? Yay or Nay?
Well, after all that’s going on in my life, I have had to take inventory (so to speak) on what is working and what is not working. Having 3 kids is no joke! I often feel overwhelmed all day and just that feeling stresses me out. So, being on maternity leave I had time to figure some things out.
First, what the hell am I doing – ok maybe not that extreme but really – how am I going to handle all this??? Am I crazy?? Probably. I do have a lot on my plate and finally having time to myself to think about the pros and cons of what I am doing has lead me to make some tough decisions.
It has always been my dream to be a consultant of some kind – so by starting this up – helping others manage their time better or get organized or get back on track in their business – I have found MY PASSION!
But, as I was working on all the logistics of this new venture – I was thinking how one of my big beliefs is to be focused on one thing at a time and do that one thing really well. And I wasn’t doing that. I was scattered so many places I wasn’t focused on one thing – I wasn’t doing anything to the best of my ability. I was doing everything “ok”.
So, adding this new venture to what I already had going on is seriously a recipe for disaster! So I had to make some decisions. I’m not going into the details on here but I had to make a change. (If you’re super curious about my life – email me J)
When I made the decision of doing what I KNOW I need to do – I felt so awesome! I felt like a weight was lifted! Then…I felt super scared. Yep, scared. Why were you feeling so many extremes you might ask…here’s why:
I FEAR CONFRONTATION! I know I have to confront this change head on (plus all the people that are involved in this change) but I am scared to tell them that…
I’ve always had this fear my whole life. I LOVE change but I hate what I have to do to get there. But I have decided it’s all about mindset – right? I know I need to take care of myself first and I need to just be honest and open and believe it will work out.
This leads me to wonder – how many things are we holding on to in our lives because we are too scared to let it go? Probably too many…when’s the last time you took inventory of your life and decided to “declutter” your life? Maybe it’s time…
And now…I need to go do it. Wish me luck!
I totally get this! When you first started you were on a wave of growth and momentum, but now that has seemed to slow down – or even stop! So, what happened to your business – you’re still doing the same things – talking to people, trying to get it going again but you’re feeling discouraged. Believe me, I’ve been there. Here are some tips I have used to get back on that wave and get going again.
- Change your mindset – don’t say you’re stuck. Find a new saying – something like, “I am having success in my business” or whatever you want – but make sure it is positive. If you keep telling yourself you’re stuck – you will start to believe it.
- Build your belief in your business. In the beginning of your business did you have excitement and passion for your business? Now, are you starting to lose that excitement? Read more testimonies, information, and never stop learning and build belief in your product or service to keep your passion alive – people can tell if you’re just going through the motions or if you truly believe in what you’re doing.
- Keep Showing Up! Keep attending to meetings, training, belief building, and personal growth. Don’t get caught up in the negativity, keep growing and learning, this rough patch won’t last forever!
- Don’t make excuses! Are you blaming everyone but not really looking at yourself? It’s easy to blame others, but really we are the ones with all the power to change things. Not our upline, downline, or friends or family – just us. Take a look inside and work on improving yourself – step up and stop making excuses. Just do what needs to be done.
- Relationships – MLM businesses are build on relationships…what have you been doing to build relationships with your team and friends? NOT based on only your business but do you know anything about your team? If not, ask them! Ask them their challenges, goals, their why, anything, get to know your team. Also, get back to basics on just building relationships in general. We get caught up with technology – but what if you met for lunch or at the park andhad a real conversation in person (not talking about your business) but just building friendships.
Keep going – get through this tough time – you can do it! You have to believe in yourself and make it happen! You have the power to make a difference!! Go get ‘em!
Have you ever had one of those days….where you feel like a bad mom – maybe you lost your temper, didn’t get anything done, or whatever the case may be you just feel like you wish you had a reset button for that day. Well – I had one of those days today.
My 3 year old was throwing a fit for some unknown reason, my 1 year old wouldn’t listen to a word I said – she literally ignored me, and my newborn wouldn’t sleep and was continuously nursing.
So I lost my temper, I didn’t get anything done, and was cranky most of the day. But you know what, I know a lot of people feel that way and sometimes we are too scared to talk about it. I’m not sure why there is such a stigma about this topic.
We like to make our lives seem perfect on the outside, but in reality no one’s life is perfect every day. My goal for 2016 is to take it one day at a time. I don’t think I could get through the rough days any other way. But I also realized – we aren’t bad moms because we slip or lose our temper or don’t do the dishes…we are just doing our best, trying to get through this thing called life.
So – next time you’re having a good day – remember it because you’ll need some motivation to get through the bad ones!
As we charge into the holiday season full force, 2 toddlers and 8 ½ months pregnant – I am starting to wonder how on earth I am going to manage my life with 3 young kids. I know people do it all the time, and I know I will figure it out, but I do have my moments where I just get freaked out! Like how is it gonna work?
I guess what I am most worried about is when my husband works (he works 24 hours at a time) so it will be just me alone with all the kids. A newborn, a 2 year old and a 4 year old…AHHH!
Now I realize that many people have kids that are closer in age, or are a single parent, etc. and I give you so much credit. But I think when anything new in our life comes along there is a freak out period! I felt the same having 1 baby, then 2, and now 3. It’s all an adjustment!
The same can be said for a new job, moving, more kids, or anything that shakes up our routine. It can be stressful just to think how you are going to handle it all. And you know what – I found I often get more stressed out BEFORE the actual event takes place than when it is happening! I have found that my stress is related to worry! I am so worried about what will happen and I get stressed out about it – but usually, none of the scenarios in my head actually happen! So basically I just worried and stressed myself (and my family) out for NOTHING!
For me this was a big AHA moment! I am a worrier! Yes, it will be hard, yes it will be an adjustment, but YES I will cope! When I get in my head and start to stress out, I have to constantly remind myself a couple things:
- I will survive
- I will thrive
- I will come out alive
- I will take things as they come
- I will take deep breaths ALL DAY
- I will ask for help
- I will be an awesome parent
I have to say these affirmations NOW because I am so worried NOW. By changing the way I perceive upcoming situations I can save myself a lot of stress and worry. And unfortunately I can see my stress levels rising as the time gets closer. And I think my family can feel it too.
I want you to do this. Are you stressed out for something that is coming up? Make a couple affirmation statements and say them 5 times a day. Speak them out loud while looking at yourself in the mirror. Speak them in the car. Do this for as long as possible before the event and you will believe yourself! What we say, we become. We have to think positively about our lives and especially ourselves. We can do so much more than we think we can. So let’s start thinking we can! Train our brain and lower our worry and stress levels! Here’s to whatever life throws at us! WE GOT THIS!
Even the most put together moms probably feel like they are losing their marbles every once in a while…right?? I sure hope so! I had a crazy night last night and it got me thinking – how do we cope day in and day out? How do we not lose it every day and continue on the next day without a second thought. Is it because we are used to it? Are we conditioned for it? Or is it something more? Love perhaps?
I realized in times of craziness when I feel like I want to pull my hair out and go running for the hills, after the storm has passed, and all is calm, looking at my children (hopefully sleeping) I feel my heart growing more than I thought possible. I do the daily work and put up with their shenanigans because they are the most precious thing to me.
While this post isn’t about time management or helpful tips, it is a reminder that I think we forget in the moment that this too shall pass. Before I had kids I was so impatient and uptight. To be honest, when you have kids, you have to let that go otherwise you will go crazy. Most things I would have freaked out about before (a spill, a mess, etc.), now I just let it happen and teach my kids how to take care of the problem. If they have a spill, I teach them to clean it up. If they drop something, pick it up. While this seems simple and basic, I think it’s easier for moms (or dads) to just do it for them or get mad or yell at them for spilling.
Now, I am not saying I don’t ever get mad or yell, I do. But as my children get older I realize getting mad or yelling is not helpful to teach them how to handle problems in life. If every time they make a mistake and I yell at them, they start to feel scared of making mistakes – and let me tell you I have made some mistakes – as I know everyone has. So instead of teaching them to fear making mistakes, teach them that everyone makes mistakes, it’s how they handle the outcome that matters.
I also found that using this method helps me reduce my stress. It helps me “let it go” if you will. It’s probably not the end of the world (although if it causes danger or could cause my child to get hurt I would handle the situation differently) and showing my children how to react to mistakes in a positive light is helping our whole family in an uplifting way. This takes a lot of practice and patience but I believe it’s the little things that help us become better parents and teachers. You go momma!
Are you like me – always attached to your phone? When you’re a working mom, running a business on the side, and trying to coordinate activities, appointments, calls, and everything else, it’s inevitable that your phone is always in your hand. I totally get that. That’s me 90% of the time, unfortunately. Some people feel so lost when they don’t have their phone with them. I can relate.
But guess what? Your phone isn’t going anywhere if you put it down for an hour. All your messages, calls, etc. will still be there when you get back. When’s the last time you put your phone down for one hour to just enjoy your family – with no interruptions?
We are so lucky on Kauai that we have many opportunities to get out of the house and adventure. But I am guilty of not taking advantage of all the island has to offer. Even simply going for a walk around my neighborhood with my kids!
Instead of always taking pictures with your phone of everything, put it down and just enjoy the moment you’re in. Take a deep breath and appreciate what you have. Take a time out, a day off, a break, whatever you need and put your phone down. I guarantee you will be more effective when you go back to check your phone!
This is something I believe I am always forgetting, I get stuck in my “work mode” all the time. Jumping up when my phone rings or dings, no matter if I’m spending time with my family or eating dinner. Just trying to be more conscious of your habits is hard enough, and realizing where you can improve takes a lot of courage to admit.
Dare to put down your phone. Commit to baby steps. Spend time uninterrupted with your family. You’ll feel better, and I know your family will love your undivided attention!
If you’re currently in a MLM company, you may have heard about income producing activities. You may be wondering what that means! As the name suggests, these are activities that you do (daily hopefully) that will bring you income. Wait – hold up – you mean scrolling on Facebook all day doesn’t make me money. Nope, I am afraid not! Here are some ideas to get you started. If you need some more ideas or need help organizing your day – contact me and I can help! Here are some ideas to get you started! I make it a goal to not scroll around on Social Media until I get most of these done for the day.Read More»
Ok, ok, I get it – you’re probably laughing right now! You’re probably thinking – how on earth am I going to have time for myself when I can barely keep up with my other stuff that keeps piling up. Well, let me tell you something, your laundry will be there tomorrow – I PROMISE! Do you ever feel like you’re just so tired, running around, and nearing empty. If you feel this way, how can you effectively help or care for others? Now, I don’t get the option to do this ALL the time, but I do take advantage of doing something I want – SOLO! Here are some things I do that I enjoy – and they can be anything you love!Read More»
Are you in a whirl-wind in the morning trying to get everyone ready and out the door? I sure am! Yes, I could get up earlier, blah blah blah, but I prefer sleeping past my snoozed alarm 4 times. Doesn’t everyone do that? Well, in order to increase my sleep time in the morning and maximize my getting ready time, I’ve come up with a bunch of tricks to shave time off our morning routine.Read More»
Maybe you can relate – you’re at work all day – then pick up kids after work, go home, only to realize you don’t have anything for dinner! Now, you have to load everyone up to run to the store or grab take out or fast food. While I do occasionally fall into that trap – I’ve decided that I am going to attempt Meal Planning.
Now, this is different from Meal Prep. Meal Planning is basically having a meal (and all the ingredients) ready at your fingertips when you get home. Meal Prep is more like you have the whole meal ready to pull out of your fridge! I’ll admit – I am not ready for the meal prep phase yet due to the ever changing circumstances in my life, so I opted for the less-intimidating meal planning phase.Read More»
Are you constantly running here – running there – trying to squeeze everything in during the day but end up frazzled, tired and stressed? Do you even remember the last time you did something nice for yourself was? Between work, families, children, activities, and everything else going on – we rarely have time to thing, let alone treat ourselves to something nice.Read More»
- Inform your potential client or client that you will be calling at a certain time – schedule a time that works for both parties. This can be done through a text, message, email, etc.
- Tell them you have X amount of time for the call/meeting. This is important so they know what to expect and they can schedule accordingly.
- Adhere to this scheduled amount of time. If you say you have 20 minutes – finish it at 20 minutes. This will ensure the client is prepared as well.
- Take notes, if needed, on the client’s questions or comments to refer back to later, or any unanswered questions to return with the answer at another time.
- If you have 4 clients or potentials to call today – time block. Set aside 1 hour and call them all – back to back. You must schedule this!! It’s a time waster if you call them but they are unavailable and then you are caught playing phone tag!
Being a mom, I feel that multi-tasking is in our job description – holding a baby while making dinner and 50 other things happening at the same time. For me, it’s a way of life, it’s what I do. I also believe as a society it’s what we do. We are on our phones, driving, eating, picking up kids, etc. We are so used to being busy and we just do it without even thinking.
However, when it comes to business, multi-tasking isn’t always the best way to get things done. It may seem like it is though – I can be on a call, while posting on Facebook, and talking in a group chat. Wow – and I only spent 15 minutes on ALL that.